ABUSED WOMEN – WHY? AND WHAT TO DO…YOU ARE NEVER ALONE IF YOU FIND THE COURAGE WITHIN YOU TO FIGHT…
BATTERED WOMAN SYNDROME
What a woman should do when her husband humiliates her, telling her “she is fat, ugly, not worth anything, stupid, good for nothing, bad at bed, do not even know how to cook, etc …
That is the time when the woman has no duties to cook, to have sex, to fix the house, to attend to the in-laws or relatives of the husband.
STOP BEING A PUNCHING BAG
The woman has to learn to stop the man, all bullies must be confronted, (even though it is not easy) it is the only way to stop the abuse, whether it is a child in school, in married life, or at work. Because being submissive will not change the abuser’s behavior and it will get worse.
These type of man threats include taking away their financial support leaving the woman in the street; however, if there are children the situation is not so easy for them.
DON’T BE AFRAID OF THE COURT SYSTEM
The courts are not always fair, the judges don’t always make the right decisions, but in most cases children’s custody is given to the mother, and the man does not want to deal with kids anyway.
This type of individuals are emotional abusers of every one they can push around, coworkers, wife, live-in partner, even parents, and including children, because the abuse they perform on a woman in front of the children, causes the children to suffer as well.
DEFEND YOURSELF, YOUR CHILDREN AND YOUR GROUND
When you go to court for restraining order, separation or divorce, the individual is required to financially respond X amount of money for the support of the children and the woman. Outside of the financial support, the man does not contribute to the marriage, so the woman has nothing to lose and much to gain.
The individual can say whatever he wants, but the laws usually protect the woman and child. Any property that the husband owns also belongs to the wife and children, that is the law.
Whenever, there is alimony and/or child support, it should be paid through the state. The majority individuals in this situation want to deal directly with the woman, most of the time as time goes by they renege on the money owed. Example, after the man has contracted with the woman, he moves and tells her that he has no job, but if it is through the state, the individual cannot hide anywhere in the United States, therefore, the woman and the family is protected.
BATTERED WOMAN SYNDROME
One of the most important things to do is obtain psychiatric and psychological treatment in order to overcome the battered woman syndrome. This is needed if you want to move on with your life, and demonstrate to yourself and your children that there is life after living in turmoil.